We Can Do Anything With God & Kisses

Mikayla and I have both been listening to the audio version recording of Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, and it is really good. I highly recommend this book to anyone who has never read it (or if it's been a while, this book is worth reading again!). One of the habits that really calls to me is the Win-Win section. Everyone should live by a win-win mentality, especially husbands and wives. Just to summarize, whenever two parties have an interaction, there are 3 basic outcomes: win-win, win-lose, and lose-win. Win-win - both parties benefit Win-lose - I get what I want because you don't get what you want Lose-win - I don't get what I want because you get what you want When Mikayla and I got married, we expressed to each other that we didn't want to ever get in a fight. Now, depending on your definition of a fight, we are still good--but we've had our fair share of disagreements, and tears shed because someone did something stupid (...pretty ...

Mikayla and I, along with countless other members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints are studying along with the Come Follow Me study guide. I love this study guide so much because it encourages everyone to read in the Book of Mormon at a similar pace. This allows families and friends to share what we learn together. Mikayla and I have a group text with a few others where we share our daily scripture study thoughts. I highly recommend this, because it keeps you accountable to study God’s word and also gain the perspective and insight for what others in the group learned as well. It’s a win-win situation. Something that really stuck out to me in this week’s reading was how much Lehi the prophet cared for his family. In 1 Nephi 8:11-12 it reads: “11  And it came to pass that I did go forth and partake of the  fruit  thereof; and I beheld that it was most sweet, above all that I ever before tasted. Yea, and I beheld that the fruit thereof wa...

One of marriage's sweetest and simplest pleasures is always having a dance partner. I am no professional dancer, friends. The worst grade I got my senior year of high school was in a social dance class, and it legitimately was given because of lack of skill, not lack of effort. However, there is something undeniably romantic and tender about slow dancing with my sweetheart. Because keeping to a strict budget is a necessity for our family at present (as it is for many couples!), I'm starting a mini-series of posts highlighting dates that that are economic, can often be done at home after the kids are in bed (which saves money and anxiety over babysitters) yet still maintain a romantic and relationship-enriching atmosphere.  Episode 1: Slow Dance If it's your turn to plan date night, start by banishing your spouse to a quiet corner of the house for some time to themselves. Then, gather up some candles or soft-lit lamps and assemble them in an open area of your home...

I'm the main finance-handler, grocery-shopper, and cook in our relationship, so when sales come around, I notice--and I'm a big fan. Last week was Smith's caselot sale, and I had a long list ready to go to stock up on some staple ingredients. Kevin is fantastic and accepted my plea for his help. I didn't want to brave the caselot sale with both a toddler and an infant in my cart... it would have taken a lot of muscle power, will power, and multiple trips through the check-out line to make it all happen; though the thought of it was nightmarish. A few days ago, he kindly stopped to shop for me after work. As he was loading up the car with the dozens of items, he had the feeling he should check the receipt as he set each item in the truck bed. He had noted that the cashier seemed a bit frazzled (as any employee would be amidst the chaos of a caselot sale!). He noted that several items had been skipped, and therefore were not paid for. Kevin, in true Kevin fashion, did th...

Flashback to 2006. I'm a junior high kid that rides the bus. I'm blessed with a tight-knit group of friends, and we do all the things that 2000's era tween girls do--pass notes to each other in the hallways, share ear-buds while listening to Weezer and Avril Levine on our MP3players, chomp on Orbit gum while giggling over our latest crushes, play Vampire and Kick-the-can during night games, and hot tub followed by caramel popcorn and watching Pirates of the Caribbean: Curse of the Black Pearl while fawning over Orlando Bloom. But one of the pop-culture items I DID NOT  participate in as a tween was watching & discussing the Nickelodeon hit show "Avatar: The Last Airbender." I have vivid memories of my dear friends Noelle Crandall and Shanelle Winkel geeking out over Aang, Appa, Zuko, Jet, and the rest of the gang in the show. I watched a few snippets of episodes here and there while socializing with friends, and I even attended Noelle's party for the ...

Mikayla and I live in southern Utah County, which is about an hour-long commute by bus for me to work. I take the 805 bus to the Provo Central Station, and then I take the UVX to BYU. On my way home each day when I wait for the 805 bus at the Provo Central Station, I see a guy that is always waiting at a different bus stop. He'll wait with the people and then when that particular bus comes along, he moves to another bus stop full of waiting people. He always looks a little nervous. I figured he was just one of those strangers my parents told me not to talk with when I was a little child. I typically have my big headphones on so this man has never approached me. About two months ago my wireless headphones ran out of batteries, so I was an easy target for the bus stop creeper to approach. He awkwardly stood in my proximity and then nonchalantly moved his way in. He asked me where I was headed, what I did for work, and if I liked my job. I replied to his questions and asked him the...

Back in October I wrote a post about why marriage is an investment worth spending on. One aspect of that post shared the importance of going on one-on-one overnight outings with your spouse. Getting away can be difficult--there's limited income to consider, transportation needs, taking work off, and coordinating schedules with a trustworthy child caregiver; just to name a few obstacles. Much can (and should!) be said about each of these obstacles and strategies for successfully tackling them. For today, however, I will focus on the reality of creating a relationship-building, beautiful getaway with your spouse, while keeping to a budget. Here are five affordable getaways Kevin & I have experienced and paid for for 500$ or less. Since we live in Utah and much of this blog community lives here as well, the locations are local to us. 30$ is added to each "total cost estimate" to account for paying for fuel to drive to each location (it may be more or less depending on...